By Susan & Stephanie
Wedding Toasts/Speeches are one of many memorable pieces of a wedding reception. This memory will stay with the bride and groom forever so, if you are the best man or maid of honor, you’ll want to ensure you create that memorable speech that they’ll treasure.
You might be saying to yourself, “I don’t like to give speeches or talk in front of others” but it’s really okay! Many people are uncomfortable speaking in front of others. If you speak from the heart the words will flow, but we definitely recommend writing your thoughts down so you have some sort of outline of what you’d like to cover. Keep it under about three minutes because people tend to lose focus easily. Here is a breakdown of the anatomy of a wedding speech:
- Opening: Many people start of their speech with a joke to break the ice and their nerves.
- Compliments: Compliment the bride, bridal party and guests (ie: I have never seen such an amazingly beautiful bride or crowd)followed by letting everyone there know who they are and how they know the couple
- Introduction: Introduce yourself and your relationship to the bride or groom.
- Story: Tell a story of how the couple met and your involvement or when you knew that their partner was different from all the others. It’s fun to joke during this time, but don’t include intimate details that would embarrass the couple. Check out the information below for questions that might help with the stories.
- Advice: Give any advice that you think is applicable. Ask your parents or any successful couple about why they have lasted and share this with your best friend. It might just save their marriage.
- Wishes for the Couple: Here is where you may get a little emotional and tell them about what you hope for in their future (ie: I wish you both the best in life and love).
- Toast: Raise your glass and ask guests to do so as well, and toast to the newlyweds.
If you are still struggling as to what you’ll be saying, think about what you know about the bride and the groom. You don’t need to mention lots of things, but those things that you love about each of them and about them together. Don’t forget the funny or crazy stuff you know about each of them also. Some questions you may want to ask yourself to prepare the speech are:
- How did you become friends and what makes your friendship special?
- What special moments as a family member do you have with either/or both of them?
- How did the couple meet?
- Why do you think they belong together?
If you need to read from a written speech, go ahead! That’s okay too! Remember, it’s not about you, it’s about the bride and groom. The bride and groom will appreciate anything you say or do. Just relax, speak from the heart and let it happen.
On an added note, sometimes speeches are also given by the Father and Mother of the Bride, the Father and Mother of the Groom, and other close family members. This is a great opportunity for the bride and groom to thank and toast their guests if they have not been able to make it to all the tables or if they did not do a receiving line.
The internet is full of information about this subject. You can even find examples of speeches you can use. All you’ll have to do is fill in the right information. Do some research if you need to, but it’s important to get it done ahead of time so you don’t have to worry about it at the last minute.
Here’s to the husband
And here’s to the wife;
May they remain
Lovers for life.
— Traditional toast
A toast to love and laughter, and happily ever after.
— Traditional toast